Abuse survivors’ responsibilities
Stuff abuse survivors need to do:
- Survive and do whatever they need to do to survive
- Keep themselves safe and physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy in any way they need to
- Live their own life and follow their own standards of living (something survivors didn’t have much of a chance doing while they were being abused)
Stuff abuse survivors do NOT need to do:
- Please other people
- Give explanations
- Follow other people’s standards for being a survivor, even if it’s standards of another survivor
- Forgive their abusers and “be the bigger person” (they don’t need to, but nor should survivors need to never forgive their abusers and refuse to see them ever again)
- Cover up their wounds and emotions and stuff it all in (so the wounds will never heal) because it makes others feel too uncomfortable
- Be held up as some sort of an example, especially for the sake of somebody else’s political agenda
- Make every single detail of their abuse public and accessible, especially for others’ political agendas
- “Prove” to others that the abuse was real and “prove” it really hurt them
- Have no weaknesses whatsoever, especially after going through abuse
- Answer to ignorant assumptions made about their abuse
- Be the same person they were before they were abused (abuse tend to change people, you know)
- Always be happy with a smile on their face so that others will feel more comfortable around them
- Do shit for anybody but themselves
(via cage-veil-cunt)
